Jolie Vie Aesthetics offers IntimaLase®, which is a unique, patent-pending laser therapy for incisionless, non-invasive photothermal tightening of the vaginal canal. Clinical studies have shown that IntimaLase is an efficient, easy-to-perform, and safe procedure.
The indication for IntimaLase is vaginal relaxation syndrome, which is the loss of the optimum structural form of the vagina. This condition is generally associated with overstretching of the vaginal canal during childbirth as well as with natural aging.
Fotona’s laser with “Smooth-mode” technology thermally affects the vaginal tissue, stimulating collagen remodeling and the synthesis of new collagen fibers in the vaginal mucosa tissue and collagen-rich endopelvic fascia. The final result of collagen neogenesis and remodeling is tightening of the vaginal canal.
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Beauty is more than skin deep! Confident people are always so beautiful, take a look at this great article from MindTools.com to help strengthen your confidence.
From the quietly confident doctor whose advice we rely on, to the charismatic confidence of an inspiring speaker, self-confident people have qualities that everyone admires.
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. Sadly, this can be a vicious circle: people who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful.
Learn how to become more self-confident, with this video.
After all, most people are reluctant to back a project that’s being pitched by someone who was nervous, fumbling, and overly apologetic.
On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who speaks clearly, who holds his or her head high, who answers questions assuredly, and who readily admits when he or she does not know something.
Confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.
The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on. And, whether you’re working on your own confidence or building the confidence of people around you, it’s well-worth the effort!
How Confident Do You Seem to Others?
Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways: your behavior, your body language, how you speak, what you say, and so on. Look at the following comparisons of common confident behavior with behavior associated with low self-confidence. Which thoughts or actions do you recognize in yourself and people around you?
Behavior Associated With low Self-Confidence
Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it.
Governing your behavior based on what other people think.
Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.
Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure, and so avoid taking risks.
Admitting your mistakes, and learning from them.
Working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices.
Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments.
Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible.
Accepting compliments graciously. “Thanks, I really worked hard on that prospectus. I’m pleased you recognize my efforts.”
Dismissing compliments offhandedly. “Oh that prospectus was nothing really, anyone could have done it.”
As you can see from these examples, low self-confidence can be self-destructive, and it often manifests itself as negativity. Confident people are generally more positive – they believe in themselves and their abilities, and they also believe in living life to the full.
What Is Self-Confidence?
Two main things contribute to self-confidence: self-efficacy and self-esteem.
We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we see ourselves (and others similar to ourselves) mastering skills and achieving goals that matter in those skill areas. This is the confidence that, if we learn and work hard in a particular area, we’ll succeed; and it’s this type of confidence that leads people to accept difficult challenges, and persist in the face of setbacks.
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This overlaps with the idea of self-esteem, which is a more general sense that we can cope with what’s going on in our lives, and that we have a right to be happy. Partly, this comes from a feeling that the people around us approve of us, which we may or may not be able to control. However, it also comes from the sense that we are behaving virtuously, that we’re competent at what we do, and that we can compete successfully when we put our minds to it.
Some people believe that self-confidence can be built with affirmations and positive thinking. At Mind Tools, we believe that there’s some truth in this, but that it’s just as important to build self-confidence by setting and achieving goals – thereby buildingcompetence. Without this underlying competence, you don’t have self-confidence: you have shallow over-confidence, with all of the issues, upset and failure that this brings.
So how do you build this sense of balanced self-confidence, founded on a firm appreciation of reality?
The bad news is that there’s no quick fix, or five-minute solution.
The good news is that becoming more confident is readily achievable, just as long as you have the focus and determination to carry things through. And what’s even better is that the things you’ll do to build your self-confidence will also build success – after all, your confidence will come from real, solid achievement. No-one can take this away from you!
So here are our three steps to self-confidence, for which we’ll use the metaphor of a journey: preparing for your journey; setting out; and accelerating towards success.
Step 1: Preparing for Your Journey
The first step involves getting yourself ready for your journey to self-confidence. You need to take stock of where you are, think about where you want to go, get yourself in the right mindset for your journey, and commit yourself to starting it and staying with it.
In preparing for your journey, do these five things:
Look at What You’ve Already Achieved
Think about your life so far, and list the ten best things you’ve achieved in an “Achievement Log.” Perhaps you came top in an important test or exam, played a key role in an important team, produced the best sales figures in a period, did something that made a key difference in someone else’s life, or delivered a project that meant a lot for your business.
Put these into a smartly formatted document, which you can look at often. And then spend a few minutes each week enjoying the success you’ve already had!
Think About Your Strengths
Next, use a technique like SWOT Analysis to take a look at who and where you are. Looking at your Achievement Log, and reflecting on your recent life, think about what your friends would consider to be your strengths and weaknesses. From these, think about the opportunities and threats you face.
Make sure that you enjoy a few minutes reflecting on your strengths!
Think About What’s Important to You, and Where You Want to Go
Next, think about the things that are really important to you, and what you want to achieve with your life.
Setting and achieving goals is a key part of this, and real confidence comes from this. Goal setting is the process you use to set yourself targets, and measure your successful hitting of those targets. See our article on goal setting to find out how to use this important technique, or use our Life Plan Workbook to think through your own goals in detail (see the “Tip” below).
Inform your goal setting with your SWOT Analysis. Set goals that exploit your strengths, minimize your weaknesses, realize your opportunities, and control the threats you face.
And having set the major goals in your life, identify the first step in each. Make sure it’s a very small step, perhaps taking no more than an hour to complete!
Start Managing Your Mind
At this stage, you need to start managing your mind. Learn to pick up and defeat the negative self-talk which can destroy your confidence. See our article on rational positive thinking to find out how to do this.
Further useful reading includes our article on imagery – this teaches you how to use and create strong mental images of what you’ll feel and experience as you achieve your major goals – there’s something about doing this that makes even major goals seem achievable!
And Then Commit Yourself to Success!
The final part of preparing for the journey is to make a clear and unequivocal promise to yourself that you are absolutely committed to your journey, and that you will do all in your power to achieve it.
If as you’re doing it, you find doubts starting to surface, write them down and challenge them calmly and rationally. If they dissolve under scrutiny, that’s great. However if they are based on genuine risks, make sure you set additional goals to manage these appropriately. For help with evaluating and managing the risks you face, read our Risk Analysis and Management article.
Either way, make that promise!
Self-confidence is about balance. At one extreme, we have people with low self-confidence. At the other end, we have people who may be over-confident.
If you are under-confident, you’ll avoid taking risks and stretching yourself; and you might not try at all. And if you’re over-confident, you may take on too much risk, stretch yourself beyond your capabilities, and crash badly. You may also find that you’re so optimistic that you don’t try hard enough to truly succeed.
Getting this right is a matter of having the right amount of confidence, founded in reality and on your true ability. With the right amount of self-confidence, you will take informed risks, stretch yourself (but not beyond your abilities) and try hard.
So how self confident are you? Take our short quiz to find out how self-confident you are already, and start looking at specific strategies to improve your confidence level.
Step 2: Setting Out
This is where you start, ever so slowly, moving towards your goal. By doing the right things, and starting with small, easy wins, you’ll put yourself on the path to success – and start building the self-confidence that comes with this.
Build the Knowledge You Need to Succeed
Looking at your goals, identify the skills you’ll need to achieve them. And then look at how you can acquire these skills confidently and well. Don’t just accept a sketchy, just-good-enough solution – look for a solution, a program or a course that fully equips you to achieve what you want to achieve and, ideally, gives you a certificate or qualification you can be proud of.
Focus on the Basics
When you’re starting, don’t try to do anything clever or elaborate. And don’t reach for perfection – just enjoy doing simple things successfully and well.
Set Small Goals, and Achieve Them
Starting with the very small goals you identified in step 1, get in the habit of setting them, achieving them, and celebrating that achievement. Don’t make goals particularly challenging at this stage, just get into the habit of achieving them and celebrating them. And, little by little, start piling up the successes!
Keep Managing Your Mind
Stay on top of that positive thinking, keep celebrating and enjoying success, and keep those mental images strong. You can also use a technique like Treasure Mapping to make your visualizations even stronger!
And on the other side, learn to handle failure. Accept that mistakes happen when you’re trying something new. In fact, if you get into the habit of treating mistakes as learning experiences, you can (almost) start to see them in a positive light. After all, there’s a lot to be said for the saying “if it doesn’t kill you, it makes you stronger!”
Step 3: Accelerating Towards Success
By this stage, you’ll feel your self-confidence building. You’ll have completed some of the courses you started in step 2, and you’ll have plenty of success to celebrate!
This is the time to start stretching yourself. Make the goals a bit bigger, and the challenges a bit tougher. Increase the size of your commitment. And extend the skills you’ve proven into new, but closely related arenas.
Keep yourself grounded – this is where people tend to get over-confident and over-stretch themselves. And make sure you don’t start enjoying cleverness for its own sake…
If you haven’t already looked at it, use our How Self Confident Are You? quiz to find out how self-confident you are, and to identify specific strategies for building self-confidence.
As long as you keep on stretching yourself enough, but not too much, you’ll find your self-confidence building apace. What’s more, you’ll have earned your self-confidence – because you’ll have put in the hard graft necessary to be successful!
Goal setting is arguably the most important skill you can learn to improve your self-confidence. If you haven’t already read and applied our goal setting article, you can read it here.
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, and people who lack it can find it difficult to become successful.
Two main things contribute to self-confidence: self-efficacy and self-esteem. You can develop it with these three steps:
Prepare for your journey.
Set out on your journey.
Accelerate towards success.
Goal setting is probably the most important activity that you can learn in order to improve your self-confidence.
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The Vampire Facial is one of the most popular treatments at Jolie Vie Aesthetics here in Arkansas! Our patients love it! We were so excited to come across this article about skincare tips from the inventor of the Vampire Facial, Dr. Barbara Sturm.
If you haven’t heard of Dr. Barbara Sturm, you’ve probably seen her signature skin treatment: the Vampire Facial.
It looks exactly how it sounds—it’s a facial using your own blood—and it went viral after Kim Kardashian famously shared an Instagram photo in 2013.
Since then, the German-born aesthetics doctor has also garnered a cult following for her bespoke MC1 Cream, a.k.a. the “Blood Cream.”
For US$1,400, she draws your blood, separates out the plasma, and then infuses it into a customized shea-butter-based moisturizer.
The only catch? It’s almost impossible to get, unless you can afford a trip to Düsseldorf, or you’re a celebrity. (Sturm counts Gwyneth Paltrow, Kate Moss, Cher, Sienna Miller, Angela Bassett and Rosie Huntington-Whiteley as clients.)
Here’s what I learned about her unique approach to skincare, plus her best tips for a healthy complexion:
How did the Vampire Facial come about?
I was an orthopedic surgeon, and I helped primarily in the treatment against osteoarthritis by using the body’s own proteins. So, using your cells to produce healing factors—mainly anti-inflammatory proteins—and we inject those into the joints.
And, I started at one point injecting hyaluronic acid into wrinkles, just for fun—
Injecting yourself, or other people?
Yeah, no, no, no. Other people!
And then I thought—because I’m a scientist, you know—I need to do something different than the mainstream, on a cellular level.
So I combined the proteins from the blood with the hyaluronic acid, and that’s what I injected.
This was like, 14 years ago that I invented the Vampire Facial.
Are the effects similar to a filler, like Restylane?
You can mix it with the hyaluronic acid filler, you can mix it without, you can mix it as a mesotherapy. You can do all kinds of things.
It uses the patient’s own blood to counteract inflammation and stimulate collagen growth.
How did that lead to creating your MC1 Cream?
I put it in a cream because I myself suffered from dry skin. Nothing would really help me. I tried every cream on the market, and nothing would work for my skin.
So I invented this cream with the blood, which all of a sudden fixed my skin.
So the MC1 Cream is custom-made with each person’s blood, correct?
Yes. That’s how I started with skincare.
After that, my patients were asking me “What is Dr. Sturm’s regimen?” and which skincare products they should use for this and that.
But I couldn’t recommend anything because I didn’t find anything on the market I liked.
So I decided to make some products in addition to the MC1 Cream.
What do you think is the problem with most skincare products?
I think in America, there are 15,000 more ingredients than in Europe that are allowed to be in use.
So they’re not safe.
The problem is we don’t know, we don’t know.
I’m a maniac when it comes to ingredients. I’m very clean, non-toxic, cruelty-free, vegan, highly scientific.
What do you think is the worst ingredient, that people should avoid?
I don’t like fragrances, although I have a Body Cream with the tiniest bit [of natural fragrance].
But if you’re just walking to the office or something?
You don’t think it’s necessary?
No. If you use something like glycolic, then yeah, you need to wear sunscreen. But if you have healthy skin, no.
Do you think Botox is a good way to fight aging?
I like it. I do it for my patients, yeah.
Do you do it yourself?
Is it true that Botox can cause muscle atrophy over time?
Yeah, your muscles atrophy from the Botox, of course.
Could that cause more sagging possibly?
Yes, but you know, you’re also protected from wrinkles. So it could cause sagging, but it also protects from wrinkles, so what’s better?
So you’d just have to keep up with the injections, I guess.
What’s your opinion on lasers and light therapies?
Light therapy’s always been good. I’ve used it since I was a kid; my parents put me in front of red lights to get rid of sinusitis. So yes, I believe in it.
I don’t believe in lasers.
So harsh. It destroys your skin.
I think we’re all so used burning, peeling and fighting with our skin that it’s unusual to hear someone promoting “gentleness.”
And healing and telomerase-activating, which is super-scientific.
Keeping the cells alive and in really good shape, and taking out inflammation to protect from all skin conditions.
What results can people expect from your product line?
No irritations, more glow-iness, healthy skin, vital skin.
So it kind of does it all.
Do you plan to launch any more products?
Yes, the kids line is coming out. And the Glow Drops are coming in November. They’re a glaze, for a nice glow. And Anti-Pollution Drops.
What about makeup? Do you wear makeup?
No, and I wouldn’t be good in doing makeup, I don’t think.
For people who wear it, is it just as important to have clean ingredients?
Yes. You know, I also find with makeup on, it just attracts more bacteria and dirt gets stuck on it.
It’s just my feeling—I’m a maniac, I’m medical, I’m a medical maniac. I have to wash my hands all the time. I would never touch my face with my hands. My little daughter, who has like, dirty, filthy hands, she likes to touch my face, and I’m like, “Stop it!” I taught my older daughter, and she’s the same maniac now.
Can bacteria harm your skin, even if you don’t get acne?
Yes, because you transport bacteria onto your skin all the time.
Are there any other skincare brands or doctors doing work you admire?
I really don’t look right and left, I just believe what I believe in. I do what I think is right. I don’t have time to look around, honestly. I never was interested in what other people were doing. I like being different. I don’t like the mainstream.
And you know, I question everything. I would never have done skincare if I had thought, “Ah yeah, I’ll do the same as this [doctor] friend and this [doctor] friend.” It’s all the same. I just care too much.
My three things are anti-inflammation, telomerase-activating, and hydration. I think that is the key to good skin.
You look so natural, it obviously must be working!
I don’t sleep, you know, I’m travelling all the time. I don’t have plenty of time to maintain myself. It’s really hard.
But I’m German; I like the natural look. And when you have great skin, you don’t have to wear makeup!